10 Gentle Ways to Say “No” to a Proposal

• Posted on January 5, 2013January 5, 2013
• by Nana Kwesi Coomson
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If someone loves you enough to ask you to marry them, you would never want to hurt their feelings. Here are a few nice ways to say “no” to someone who loves you.

1. “This is the biggest complement I have ever received in my life, and I thank you for that. I am not ready to get married at this time of my life.”

2. “This is a wonderful surprise from such a wonderful person. You have caught me off guard. I would never have imagined that you were thinking along the lines of marriage. I will need to say no because I am not ready for marriage yet.”

3 ” I am overwhelmed with gratitude that you think that much of me. This is something that his never crossed my mind. I wish I were ready for such a big step, but I am not at this time. My answer is no, but you have made me feel wonderful just by asking.

4. ” The way I feel about you is not going to change but I need to say no to such a big life change at this time.”

5. ” The thought of this question coming from you makes me feel so loved, and this means so much to me. I am not sure if I am ready yet for the things that come along with marriage. Right now I need to say no.

6. “You have made me feel so special by asking me this question. I am just not sure if I am ready for marriage yet so I need to say no.”

7. “When the time is right and I am ready for marriage I wouldn’t want anyone else but you to ask me. But,I am not ready right now.”

8. “Marriage is something that I never gave much thought to at this time of my life. It will not change anything between us, but I need to say no.”

9. What you just said to me by asking me to marry you is that you are ready for all the things that go along with marriage. I can not marry you because I am not sure if I am ready for all those things too.”

10.” I have dreamed of this day for years but I thought it would be at a time when I was ready to get married. I am not ready so I have to say no today.”

Someone who asks you to marry them loves you. No matter how you sugar coat your answer it is going to hurt them. If you are in love with them and will marry them someday when you are ready for marriage it is a little easier to let them down. Here are some ways to convey your unreadiness to marry right now along with a possibility of it happening at a later date.

1. “If I were to marry anyone it would be you. It is just that at this time in my life I am not ready to take that step.”

2. ” I always imagined us getting married, but I thought it would be a little while longer into the relationship.”

3. “When I get married it will be to you. I just need some time to get ready for that possibility.”

4. “I love you and want to marry you someday, but I think a little more time needs to go by before we can take that step.”

5. ” Marriage for me needs to be forever. We need to enjoy this time in our life first before stepping into forever. We will appreciate it later that we took this time for us.”

6. “I have been enjoying our relationship as it is right now. When I marry you it will be forever. We can take some time together now to get ready for forever.”

7, ” Things have been so wonderful between us. I want some time before I marry you to continue to enjoy the way things are today.”

8. ” I want our marriage to last so I am going to ask that we take some time to get to know each other more before taking this step.”

9. ” Today I need to say no, because I am not ready. Tomorrow might be different.”

10. ” At the right time my answer will be yes. This is not the right time for me because I am not ready.”

Marriage is a big step and there are so many things to do as an unmarried couple first. It is OK to enjoy this special time a little longer if you are not ready for marriage yet.

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