How to Behave on a Date: Ten reliable tips

• Posted on September 2, 2013September 2, 2013
• by Nana Kwesi Coomson
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Sometimes people assume they know what to do in any given circumstance, such as how to act on a date with a woman. Unfortunately, some men are wrong. This article, ten tips for men on how to behave on a date, is for all men who are currently in the dating pool.

1 – Be polite. It’s important that you be polite with your date. Say please and thank you. Be considerate of her needs and what she might want to do on the date. Watch for how she’s feeling and respond in appropriate and kind ways.

2 – Plan ahead. If you want to have a good date, it’s almost always best to do some planning ahead. Figure out beforehand what you’d like to do on your date and where. If necessary make reservations or buy tickets. Also, think about some things you might like to talk about. Waiting until the two of you are sitting there staring at one another in silence is not the time to be searching your mind frantically for topics of conversation.

3 – Make it about both of you. Whether it’s the things you do or the things you talk about on your date, make sure you focus on both of you. For example if you go on and on about your job or your car or your hobby, she’ll soon grow bored. If she doesn’t talk much, ask her questions, but be sure to keep your questions appropriate. Don’t ask things that are too personal, or intimate. Keep it general until you’ve grown to know her much better.

4 – Don’t expect. Always try to keep in mind that when a woman agrees to go on a date with you, that is all she’s agreeing to. There is no rule or law that says she has to go along with anything you suggest. She has her own free will and has the option of stopping the date anytime she so feels. She doesn’t owe you anything no matter how much you spend on her. She is only there because she chose to be there and that is all she’s agreed to, so don’t push for anything more.

5 – Personal grooming. It should go without saying that personal hygiene is rather important when you go on a date with a girl. Take a shower beforehand. Put on clean clothes. Do something with your hair. In short, make yourself presentable. Oh, and don’t go overboard with the cologne.

6 – Who pays. Figuring out who should pay for things on a date has become rather complicated. In some cases, women do like the old fashioned deal where if the man has asked her out, she expects he will pay. Other women don’t want to feel like they owe the guy, so they want to pay their share. And then some women, especially if she’s the one that has done the inviting, like to pay for the whole thing themselves. The trick here is communication; pretty much right from the start, not when the waiter comes, or the guy at the box office is standing there cow-eyed looking at you. Ask her politely as the two of you are driving or walking, how she feels about the whole issue and then the rest of the evening will go much smoother.

7 – What to do. As for what you choose to do on your date. That will depend on if you had something specifically you asked her to do with you, or vice-versa, or if you or she just asked the other if you’d like to go out some time. If it’s the latter, then usually it’s dinner and a movie or something. But even that can get a little tricky because tastes vary so much. The best way to handle the whole thing is to talk about it when whoever is doing the asking does so. Then you won’t have to fumble around after your date starts.

8 – When no means no. If you are with a girl and are getting intimate and she asks that you stop, you do. No complaining, no forceful moves, no threats. You are not entitled to any sexual favors simply because she agreed to go on a date with you. It doesn’t matter how she’s acted on the date, or what she’s said to you. In short, nothing matters. If she says no, you stop.

9 – Talk and listen too. It’s good to talk to your date, but don’t bore her by dominating the conversation. This can happen pretty easily when people get nervous. Be sure to note her body language when you are speaking. Is she listening? Looking at you? Into your eyes? These are good signs, anything else is usually the opposite. Make room for breaks in whatever you’re talking about so she can jump in if she feels like it. Then, when it’s her turn to talk, let her, without interruption. And listen. This is not the time to be thinking of something else for you to talk about. Just listen to her. If she is boring you, do your best to put up with her. It’s just one date after all, if you’re not into her, you don’t have to see her again.

10 – Say thank you. At the end of a date, thank your date for going out with you. Remember, she didn’t have to, it was a choice she made. If you wish, tell her you’d like to see her again. If she demurs, don’t push it. She doesn’t owe you another. Leave graciously.

These ten tips for men on how to behave on a date can be used by men of any age when taking a woman out on a date. If you are a man contemplating a date anytime soon, I hope these tips will help.

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