7 things you deserve in a relationship

• Posted on April 21, 2016
• by Nana Kwesi Coomson
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Throughout our lives we settle for many things. You shouldn’t have to settle for the love you are entitled to have. How do you view your love life? Whatever you put out into the universe, it will mirror back with loving reflections. Love is an act of spiritual, emotional and physical will.

1. Mutual Trust and Respect.

These are two things that cannot be bought or acquired. They grow with authenticity in a relationship. Trust is needed in order to feel at ease. Respect is earned through trust. In order to have trust and respect, you must also be trustworthy and respectful. It goes without saying, you cannot receive what you don’t have in yourself. Love yourself. Respect yourself. Trust in yourself and the rest will follow.

“The truest form of love is how you behave toward someone, not how you feel about them.” ~ Steve Hall

2. Happiness.

When you are connected with your own joy, the right person falls in alignment with you. Happiness arrives through the simplest forms in relationships. The grace of joy is a state of mind and when you walk along with a partner who lifts you, the world is just sweeter. You can overcome anything. Happiness is masterful in love. True loving relationships have no winners or losers. They have happy couples that bring out the best in each other.

“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”~ Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land

3. Humor and inside jokes.

Laughter is the best medicine. In a loving relationship, you should have an abundance of it. Couples who laugh together, stay together. There is enough anger and stress out in the world. When you are with someone who can make you laugh at yourself, you are in the company of freedom. You deserve to be open and joyous. Inside jokes, dirty stories, sarcasm and play are needed to travel in the direction of true love.

“He was uncomplicated and upbeat and easy. At one point, I might have thought these traits made him a simpleton, but now I think they just translate to happiness.” ~ Emily Griffin, Baby Proof

4. Safety and Security.

There is nothing more beautiful than to sit with your partner in silence and feel their presence holding you. You can be vulnerable. You can be you. Safety and security are required in a lasting relationship. When your loved one has your back, there is nothing that you cannot accomplish. These connections are made with the heart. There is a difference between a person trying to fix you and one who is accepting you for all that you are. You deserve to be held in the worst of times, and feel no judgment.

“To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow – this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

5. Adventures and Serendipitous Moments.

You deserve a relationship that creates beautiful and magical moments. Romance is never ending and you shouldn’t settle for mediocracy. Adventure comes in the ability to let go of rigidity and routine. You and your partner should be able to create and recreate anything. Last minute hikes, star gazing, or just a run to the coffee shop when you least expect it. Each moment that you leave normalcy is an ability to create simple memories full of love and appreciation.

“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

6. Passion and Intense Intimacy.

Studies show that sexual desire is more than an emotion that we crave. Arousal involves a motivation and thought processing. It’s not just a feel-good desire. Relationships that have passion and intense intimacy are healthy ones. The brain has shown that love is built on top of circuits that balance out the rest of our emotions. You deserve a partner that brings about the joy of acceptance and freedom of sexual expression. Making love is the ultimate exchange of soul connection.

“As if you were on fire from within. The moon lives in the lining of your skin.” ~ Pablo Neruda

7. Unconditional Love.

You cannot get what you don’t have in yourself. When you love yourself with appreciation, understanding and complete acceptance, another person can continue to create that space of unconditional love. You deserve a love that sees the best in you, loves your quirks and imperfections, and can enhance your belief in yourself. Love has no limitations. It is the highest form of true altruism. In the presence of this kind of love, the world has no boundaries. That’s what you deserve!

“The only way love can last a lifetime is if it’s unconditional. The truth is this: love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love.” ~Stephen Kendrick, The Love Dare

-kullerlove