1. Spend quality time together
Spending time together gives room to know more about your spouse. In times like this, you get to study them, know their kind of personality. You also get to talk more and discover hidden aspects of your spouse. Once your spouse can have a sense of safety around you, you open up avenues to share things that are really personal. Go to fun places together where your spouse can feel free to express himself/herself.
2. Take notes
Imagine taking lectures on a course you have interest in simply because you want to know it better, you take notes whenever any point catches your attention. Same applies with knowing your spouse better, take notes on whatever aspect of your spouse you find fascinating like the favourite colour, birthday, favourite restaurant etc. when you take notes like this, you don’t forget those vital details.
3. Do something new together
Think of an activity that neither of you has any experience in then do it together, the concept of this is to learn something entirely new with your spouse. You can pick a sport or play a game, anything at all. In the process, you will be able to see how your spouse can respond to change and deal with situations he/she has never been in before.
4. Lend a listening ear
Some people want to talk but they hardly listen, it is while listening you can really connect with your spouse. Ask questions about your spouse and pay attention when answers are being given. Learn to listen to your spouse much more than you talk.
5. Pray together
This is one of the most intimate times you can spend with your spouse. In the place of prayer, you get to see your spouse’ brokenness and openness to God. You can learn what your spouse thinks of himself/herself. You see your spouse’ true nature as there is no covering and emotional baggage in the place of prayer.
6. Discuss your goals together
We all have visions and plans for the future, when you share goals and dreams with your spouse, you get to know what he/she wants in life; where they desire to be in the nearest future and together you can make those goals an accomplishment.
7. Regular review
Your spouse gets to learn something new about life and about him/her everyday, by carrying out regular review, you get to know something about your spouse that you didn’t know yesterday. By doing this, your spouse opens up to you on newly discovered areas of his/her life.
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(Nana Kwesi)