How to Tell a Girl You Love Her Without Losing Her

• Posted on June 1, 2012
• by Nana Kwesi Coomson
• 1 Comment

So do you love a girl, but don’t know how to tell her that you love her?

There are two circumstances here.

Firstly, you love her but you’re not dating her.

In the second circumstance, both of you are dating each other but you want to let her know that you’re really serious about the relationship.

If you’re already dating a girl and are just confused about timing those three special words, don’t worry one bit. Just use the lines mentioned at the end of this feature and you’ll do just fine!

How to tell a girl you love her when you’re not dating her

As scary as proposing your love to a girl may seem, it’s actually the easy part. Getting the girl to like you and fall for you is actually the hard part. [Read: Tips to start dating a friend]

Contrary to what most of your friends may say, if you like a girl, don’t just ask her out. You’re leaving your hopes to fate and chance. And it’s the wrong way to make a move. After all, why leave your heart out on the streets waiting for sheer luck to cross your path when there are better ways to go about it?

If you want to tell a girl that you love her, make sure you know she already loves you and will probably answer in your favor.

Use these tips to let yourself into her heart first, and then make your move.

#1 Be her special friend

You’re probably her friend already and are just confused about letting her know your real intentions. So your first move should be to warm yourself into a special place in her heart. Be a special friend to her, help her out when she needs a hand, spend time with her when you can, and have conversations with her, both intellectual and fun. [Read: How to think like a woman and get the girl you like]

Don’t behave like a bad boy or a guy who throws his weight around. It works well with girls you don’t know, not with friends. If you ignore a girl who’s already a friend, she’ll think you’re a jerk or she’ll probably drift away from you. Your only concern should be to avoid becoming a best friend instead of a lover. [Read: Are you more than friends or just friends?]

#2 Talk late into the night

If you’re wondering how to tell a girl you like her, talking late into the night with her can work wonders for your budding relationship. Find reasons and excuses to talk to her when she’s already in bed. The relaxed pace of a long conversation late into the night almost always leads to something more personal and intimate even if both of you are just talking funny at the start of the conversation.

If that isn’t happening already, add a few personal questions in those conversations that’ll steer the conversation into relationships. Topics like relationships, personal stories, and what she likes in a guy will create the perfect setting to make your intentions clear. [Read: How to talk to a girl and make her like you]

#3 Take her out on dates

You’re just a friend now, but if you’ve been looking for ways to spend time with her and speak to her often, you’ll start to see that you’d already occupy a special place in her heart.

If you feel like she enjoys your company, it’s time you take the next step. Tell her about a great place you’ve tried or a new movie that’s in town and ask her to accompany you. You’re still a friend, so you can urge her to accompany you even if she’s thinking twice!

Once you’re out with her, treat her like a date and behave like how you would on a date. [Read: How to be a great date every time]

But now that she likes your company, avoid being a pushover or being too easily available for her. She likes spending time with you already, so you need to make her miss you when you aren’t around so she’s eager to spend time with you.

#4 Flirt with her subtly

You’re speaking to her late into the night, you’re an important part of her life and you’re going out on dates with her. If you’ve got these first few steps right, you’re already there in the right zone. But now you have to make it rather obvious that you’re attracted to her. [Read: Easy tips to compliment a girl you like]

Look for opportunities to flirt with her. If you’re worried about making an obvious move, start in a subtle manner by text flirting. It’s safe and even if she thinks you’re acting weird, you can always make it seem like a joke. [Read: How to start text flirting with a friend]

#5 Watch for reciprocation

You’re practically dating already! But are you the only one making all the calls and planning all the dates or is she asking you out too? Sometimes, the girl you like may just be coy and shy. Or at other times, she may just be too accommodating to turn you down. Find out if she’s interested in you too.

If she isn’t calling you or asking you out as often as you are, ignore her for a couple of days or cut down on the number of calls you make. By ignoring her for a few days, she’ll inevitably start thinking of you or realizing just how much she’s addicted to you. [Read: How to get a girl to kiss you by arousing her]

#6 Make her like you

Now you’ve done all that you can do to warm her up, and set the field to tell her that you love her. But are you certain she loves you already? Use these tips on how to make a girl like you without asking her out to make sure she’s already in love with you.

And once you’re certain she loves being with you, tell her what’s in your mind on a special date with a few lines similar to the one mentioned below.

“You know there’s something I’ve come to realize over the last few weeks that we’ve been spending time together. I don’t know if this is the right way to say it… but I really enjoy spending time with you… I think I’m falling for you, more with each passing day… and more than that, I really think I’m in love with you…”

Awww!

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